I remember being in Puerto Rico on a treadmill with an amazing view of the ocean. I was doing my routine workout while on vacation celebrating 10 years of marriage. For some reason, my mind kept going back to the question “is this the life I want?”. On the outside, everything looked good, but for years, I had thoughts of there being better for me. It was in that moment that I realized I was done just “being”. I wanted to live life with more intention. I wanted to exist in a more purposeful way. I was ready to aim for the extraordinary life I truly imagined for myself, but too afraid to reach for it.
That was years ago... 2015 to be exact. I absolutely put things in place to change the direction my life was headed in. I separated from my husband, created a career for myself, made my first ever six figures in a year, and was being an independent woman and mother. But it didn’t end there...
Over the course of the three years following my journey towards “purposefully being”, I also lost friends, gained weight, experienced an undesirable relationship, went broke, had a baby, had gossip sites write about me, etc... Why is all of this important? Because you need to know that deciding to live ON PURPOSE does not mean you won’t experience hell. It doesn’t mean that you won’t go through what Bishop T.D Jakes calls a “crushing” phase.
This is not to frighten you or cause you to run the other way, but more so to prepare you. Sometimes shit gets real hard, but I want you to understand that YOU CAN DO HARD THINGS. As a matter of fact, that’s my mantra. That’s what I said when I lost over 75lbs after regaining weight. That’s what I said after going through life coach certification and applying the tools to rebuild my own life. That’s what I said when it was time to coach my clients during a worldwide pandemic (which I did amazingly well and generated a quarter of a million dollars).
What I’m getting at is, you can do anything you want to do, but you gotta be willing to show up even not knowing what may come up, but definitely believing you will make it through.
Purposefully Being... what does that mean to me? It means that I’m not settling for a lifestyle, but instead I’m creating the life I want intentionally. That’s what I’d like to invite you to do as well. No matter what the circumstance is, no matter what you desire, you can live the life you want. You’re literally a thought away from doing so.